Frilly Filly Farm Handbook v2.5

Document: 2025 Frilly Filly Farm Handbook v2.5
Author: Stable Management
Date: 2026-05-13

Minor changes to required tack and owning a stall.

Welcome to Frilly Filly Farm

Frilly Filly Farm, or FFF as we are commonly known, is a human pony facility; designed for the training and nurturing of ponygirls and ponyboys. We also provide guidance and training to pony owners and aspiring pony trainers.

If this is your first visit to our sim, be aware that we expect you to be familiar with all the information in the Basics section of this Handbook. We hope you read further, but it is not required of casual visitors. The rest of the Handbook contains information on joining FFF and proper conduct for members.

1 Basics

FFF welcomes visitors with good manners and respect for others.

Everyone (excluding child avatars) is welcome to visit, use the facilities and observe training in progress. If, however, an FFF Trainer requests that you move so they may utilize the facilities, please obey the request so that the trainer may conduct the business of the farm. Ponies are expected to be polite to all trainers. This does not mean they are required to bow to them, but rudeness and impatience are not welcome at FFF.

FFF is a community-run establishment and relies on the generous contributions of its members and visitors. It takes L$48,000 a month to keep FFF going and all donations are greatly appreciated. 100% of donations go toward sim rent, maintenance and improvement.

1.1 Approved Trainers

Only those wearing the following tags are approved to formally train FFF ponies:
“FFF Trainer Trainee”
“FFF Trainer”
“FFF Senior Trainer”
“FFF Stable Mistress”
“FFF Stable Master”

FFF ponies can elect to work with non-FFF trainers if they choose, however, that is a private matter between the pony and that trainer.

Owners, independent trainers, and trainers from other stables are welcome to bring ponies from their own stables to train here.

For information on the FFF Management Team Refer to Section 5.0 FFF Management Team. FFF Trainers and the FFF Management Team members are happy to answer any questions.

1.2 Roles on the Farm

Roles on the farm are:

FFF Pony: This tag is given to all member ponies.
FFF Thoroughbred: A member pony that has completed the Thoroughbred Program. This tag reflects competence in all major disciplines.
FFF Pony Friend: A non-pony member of the farm group. This tag is typically given to the owners of member ponies. Although this tag is open to anyone approved by a member of the management team, Friends are outside the hierarchy of FFF but are expected to abide by all rules. This tag is also giving to an aspirant pony during the the trial period prior to being granted the title of FFF Pony.
FFF Groom: These members have been given permission to handle and care for ponies on the farm; they are not qualified to train them, though. Ponies are expected to obey grooms. This tag is also giving to an aspirant trainer during the the trial period prior to being granted the title of FFF Trainer Trainee.
FFF Trainer Trainee: These members are working towards full trainer status. While not full trainers, Trainer Trainees may give training in skills in which they have been signed off and approved. They may NOT sign off ponies’ Thoroughbred Checklists, however.
FFF Trainer: FFF Trainers are fully capable of handling ponies on the farm. Ponies, grooms, and Trainer Trainees are expected to obey them. An FFF Trainer may train a pony in any skill but is not permitted to perform pony physical examinations.
FFF Veterinarian: FFF Trainers that are approved to give physical examinations.
FFF Builder: A tag worn by members of the community who are engaged in building activities and do not wish to be disturbed.
FFF Scripter: A tag worn by members of the community who are engaged in scripting activities and do not wish to be disturbed.
FFF Event Manager: A tag worn by Event hosts, that grant the rights to open and close the sim to Teleports for event activities.
FFF Senior Trainers: These trainers have shown a higher level of training ability and dedication to the running of the farm. Senior Trainers are only selected by a vote of the Management Team.
In addition to Trainer powers, they also have authority over FFF Trainers. They are permitted to give pony physicals, and they can also deal with problems and complaints if a Stable Mistress or Master is unavailable. Senior Trainers can admit new FFF members, and sign off Trainees on skills. While Trainees can learn from Trainers, other Trainees, or ponies, Senior Trainers work with Trainees teaching them to train. For more information on promotions to Senior Trainer see section 5.2 Promotions and Appointments.
FFF Stable Mistress/Master: (Often abbreviated: SM.) This is the highest rank at FFF, and the SMs form the FFF Management Team.
SMs can admit new members. They set the rules for the farm and make major decisions at monthly meetings. Any concerns regarding the farm and its members should be brought to the Stable Mistresses/Masters.
FFF Stable Mistress/Master Emeritus: Emeritus Stable Managers are no longer active in running FFF but are included in communications and their input into discussions is encouraged since they represent the culture of FFF.

Many members of the sim have more than one role; they may be a Pony one day and a Trainer the next. To avoid confusion, all members are to be considered whatever title they are currently wearing, regardless of any other titles they may possess.

1.3 Conduct

FFF is a Moderate-rated sim and ponyplay at FFF is not sexual. Ponies are animals in the care of FFF trainers. Trainers handle ponies as ponies. Blatant sexual acts are forbidden on the sim; whether they are pony/pony, human/human, or pony/human. They are grounds for immediate ejection as this is a violation of Linden TOS as well as FFF rules. For more specific information on these issues, please view the FFF Nudity Policy.

Griefing will not be tolerated. If you see or fall victim to a griefer, any member of the
management team or Trainer can eject them immediately. Do not hesitate to IM for help. Members should do so through the Tortured Dreams group chat to ensure the quickest response. If help is not immediately available, it might be best to Teleport away until the griefer grows bored and moves on. Sitting down, (‘Ctrl-Alt-S’ on a PC), will prevent the use of prims to push and ‘toss’ your avatar about.

For more information on Banning and appealing see section 4.2 Banning and Being Banned. Rules may be altered by the Management team with little or no advanced warning. Notices to the group will be posted advising of any changes.

Quick Jump is considered cheating and is not allowed at FFF. Quick Jump is using built-in viewer settings to disable certain animations to allow faster movement. Please be sure to check your AO to make sure you don’t have it enabled by accident.

2. Joining The Farm

The information below describes how to join FFF as either a Pony or a Trainer Trainee. It is quite possible and acceptable to join as both a Trainer Trainee and a Pony. Many new trainers go through the process as a pony to get a better understanding of the mechanics of how training works at FFF. In addition to becoming a Pony or a Trainer there are other options open to a new member, outlined in section 1.2 Roles on the Farm

2.1 General Joining Information

The process for joining as either a Trainer or a Pony is subject to a lengthy process. To initiate this process an applicant must approach either a Senior Trainer or a Stable Master/Mistress who will conduct this initiation to the route the applicant is interested in pursuing.

2.1.1 Age

All applicants to join FFF in any role must be at least 30 days old and have a working knowledge of the Second Life interface.

2.1.2 Initial Interview

Applicants will be assessed for suitability during a casual interview, often during a farm tour, by a Stable Master/Mistress or a Senior Trainer.

2.1.3 Hand Book

The FFF Handbook has been developed over many years and is used in conflict resolution. it sets out the expectations, roles and responsibilities of all members of FFF. All members of FFF are required to read and understand the contents of this hand book prior to joining.

2.1.4 Trial Period

If approved to join FFF a new member will be subject to a trial period lasting between one and two weeks, depending on their engagement. Initially a Trainer Trainee will be given the title FFF Groom and a pony the title of of FFF Pony Friend. This period allows the new member to integrate into the farm society, make friends and meet the staff. Should the Pony or Trainer Trainee continue to visit the farm and integrate into the farm culture they will be granted the title of FFF Trainer Trainee or FFF Pony appropriately.

2.1.5 Stalls

Once you become a member, you are allowed to claim a stall in the barn. Wear your group tag, and find an empty stall you’d like to occupy. Touch the sign and follow the directions to “rent” the stall. The rent is free and you can use up to 25 Land Impact to decorate your stall.

2.1.6 SLPonyPlay.com

Ponies and Trainers are encouraged to register and create a profile at SLPonyPlay.com. This provides a useful source of wider event information from scheduling to ribbons won. In-world members are encouraged to join the Pony Info Group as a valuable resource for receiving pony news from across SL.

2.1.7 Other Stables

An FFF Pony or Trainer can be members of other stables so long as the other stable permits it. If joining multiple stables leads to inter-stable drama, the member in quest it will not be allowed. FFF Trainers are expected to be involved with FFF and train FFF ponies in addition to any duties they have at other stables.

2.2 Joining As a Pony

2.2.1 Ownership

If you are owned, your Master or Mistress provide the Management Team withe a note card granting permission for you specifically to be trained at FFF. They must mention you by name. Ponies joining FFF without their owner’s permission will be ejected from the group at their owner’s request.
Unowned ponies are free to apply for membership on their own.
If you are an owned pony, during your training we recommend that your master or mistress attend at least one session of Pony Cart whip training with you so that they may learn to command their new pony. Further experience handling ponies can be obtained by attending the Introduction and Emoting classes held regularly at FFF.

2.2.2 Learning from other Ponies

Please be aware that we usually have more ponies than trainers. It can take time to connect with trainers even after you have joined. Be patient and make friends with other ponies in the meantime. You will find you can learn just as much from them while you wait. Please don’t pressure trainers, either. Just because they are standing around doesn’t mean they are available to train. They may be in IM, or simply exhausted after a day in RL. They will train you when they are ready.

2.2.3 Getting Started

Following the initial trial period, a new Pony will be given the title of FFF Pony along with the FFF Thoroughbred Checklist. The checklist is the record of the pony’s training on their path to becoming an FFF Thoroughbred. It is kept by the pony throughout their career and maintained by trainers, senior trainers and Stable. Every sign off is recorded in the checklist by the trainer as a record of attaining the necessary competence in that skill.

2.2.4 Promotion

The FFF Thoroughbred Checklist contains four celebrated steps in a pony’s career at FFF. The initial certification gives the pony the new title of FFF Thoroughbred. This is the major mile stone in a pony’s training and their certificate will be added to the certifying SM’s wall in the FFF Museum.

A pony can continue their training to achieve further titles of:
FFF Thoroughbred *TB15
FFF Thoroughbred *TB20
FFF Thoroughbred *TB25
On the rare occasion that a pony achieves FFF Thoroughbred TB*25, the are admitted to the FFF Hall of Fame on the FFF web site along with a profile.

2.3 Training to become a Trainer

2.3.1 Getting Started

Following the initial trail period, a Trainer Trainee will be given a FFF Trainer Trainee title along with a FFF Trainer Trainee Checklist. The checklist explains the steps you must take to become a full trainer. Each step you complete must be signed off by a Stable Mistress, Stable Master, or Senior Trainer. Trainees should attempt to complete training in 6 months or less.

2.3.2 Promotion

Completed Trainer checklists are reviewed by a member of the Management Team and once approved, the trainee is promoted to full FFF Trainer Status. It is important to remember that joining FFF is as much about the ethos as it is about the training. This may mean that in some cases the farm and the individual do not “fit.” This is in no way a reflection on the individual’s abilities as a trainer.

For more information on promotions see section 5.2 Promotions and Appointments.

2.4 Groups at Frilly Filly Farm

There are a number of groups in use at FFF.

2.4.1 Tortured Dreams Ponygirl Members

This is the main group for Frilly Filly Farm. All members of the farm join this group. It is used for land management. Trainers and ponies have tags in this group. (Why “Tortured Dreams?” Read our History page and learn more.)

2.4.2 FFF Thoroughbreds

This group is for FFF Ponies who have performed all the requisite tasks and passed the final exam to earn the right to join the ranks of FFF Thoroughbred.

2.4.3 FFF Trainers

This group contains Trainer Trainees, Trainers, Senior Trainers, and Stable Mistresses and Masters. These tags grant rights to control the various rezzers and board reset scripts located around the farm.

2.4.4 FFF Think Tank

This group is a development group, used by scripters and builders to indicate they are working on projects at the farm.

2.4.5 FFF Stable Management

This group is for the Management Team to share information and communicate.

2.4.6 Non-FFF Groups

– Pony Information Group – A useful group for picking up information about other stable events and activities, and to network and meet other ponies, trainers, and owners.
– SL Ponygirls – Another useful group, similar in nature to Pony Information Group

3. Equipment for Ponies and Trainers

Pony and Trainers need various items of equipment in order to perform their role. Below are some suggestions, that are by no means exhaustive, of items for each role.

3.1 Required Equipment for Ponies

Ponies at the farm, generally, require the following items:

Bridle with Bit
Hoof boots/shoes
Hand hooves
Tail
Suitable pony AO (Animation Overrider)

*Alternatives
FFF is an inclusive farm and a safe space for all peoples. As an alternative to standard pony tack, a few alternatives that are acceptable for a pony at FFF

Pony head hood/mask
Paw boots/shoes
Armbinder, cuffs or paw gloves

Note:
FFF Trainers should not be expected to operate every control device available to a pony, such as binders, cuffs, collars, or implants. There is such a wide range of equipment available that it is not possible for us to suggest or recommend anything specific on this page. However, the pony bridle MUST enable an FFF Trainer to rein (leash) the pony without being added specifically as an Owner.

3.1.1 Approved Bridles

Any suitable bridle with a including a bit blinders pony ears and a facility to leash the pony.

3.1.2 Pony AO

Any AO with a proper pony walk, stand and jump is acceptable. Be sure the AO you choose has pre- and post-jump animations included and enabled.
Certain events, such as Silent Dressage, require the AO to enable the pony to walk backwards without turning around. Check with Trainers and other ponies for suggestions. (Trainers: see information in your Dressage Pack.)

3.1.3 FFF team colour

The farm colours are:
Cyan (0,255,255 or #00FFFF) when combined with light colours.
Light Cyan (0,128,128 or #007777) if combined with dark colours.

3.2 Trainer Equipment Recommendation

Trainers will find the following items useful. They can be obtained by the FFF Trainer Pack, available from an SM, but their own equipment such as signal whips may be used.

– Leash Holder. Any leash holder may be used, but one that accepts leashes from all major brands is useful.

-Carting Pack. This consists of two note cards describing Cross Country Carting, On-Farm carting, along with the Kiri pony HUD and signal whip.

– Dressage Pack. Consisting of information about walking backward, General dressage information, and flower dressage information.

– Useful item for Ponies Pack. This contains things ponies might need, such as Kiripony AO, paper carriers, nuzzle AO, and Bow HUDs.

– Information Notecards. This is a number of notecards containing information about programs at the farm.

– Trainer Checklist. Last but not least, is a checklist used to track your sign-offs in the various disciplines. (You can see the entire Trainer Checklist HERE.)

– Reins HUD. Some trainers use Marine Kelly’s Riding Reins HUD, or similar for a more immersive experience. Riding reins can be used with either blindfold or not to assert a greater level of control over the pony.

4. Conduct, Information, and Rules for Members

The rules on conduct and etiquette are deliberately loose at FFF. We seek to provide a place where ponies and trainers of many differing philosophies can play; a strict code of behavior would conflict with that goal. The important thing to remember is to be polite and respectful to others. If you follow that simple rule, you will do fine at FFF.

4.1 Trainers

Trainers represent the authority at FFF. Ranging from Trainers, Senior Trainers to the highest level of authority, Stable Mistresses/Masters.

A Trainer should commit to doing two hours of on-farm training a week.

4.1.1 Trainer Authority

It is important to remember that FFF Trainers have a level of authority on the farm. Everyone, pony or otherwise, is expected to listen to them when they give directions. If they ask you to clear an area you should do so immediately. Trainers mediate conflicts and issues between members, either on the sim or in group chat. The goal of the Trainer should be to defuse the situation, not to take a side.

Problems and issues with members can be resolved and mediated by Trainers at the farm.

Senior Trainers or Members of the Management Team are the final arbiters of any dispute. If no trainer of any rank is available, please consider retreating from any heated situation until the situation can be mediated. Continuing the conflict can just make it harder to resolve.

All Trainers have the authority to eject and ban people, so be mindful of this. If you find yourself banned, you may make an appeal by IM or notecard to a member of the Management Team (a Stable Mistress or Master).

The authority of Trainers is limited to the running of the farm. Beyond FFF rules, additional rules between pony and trainer must be established and discussed as a personal matter. There is no obligation for an FFF pony to accept and follow personal rules, but once accepted, they should be followed.

Disputes over accepted personal rules must be treated as a personal issue that does not involve the farm; however, FFF staff can act as mediators should such a situation deteriorate.

As an example, there is no rule at FFF that a pony must bow to a trainer. However, a trainer may have a personal rule that they like ponies they train to bow to them. They must make that clear to the pony when they begin training them. The pony has the right to reject training under these rules, if they do not wish to accept them.

While trainers are free to have their own personal approaches, they cannot enforce them on ponies they do not train.

If you feel that a trainer is abusing their power, you may talk to a Senior Trainer or SM about the matter. We have enough staff at both levels that you can easily find one that will have no personal involvement. There are some warning signs that a trainer may be abusing their power:

-Not accepting a pony’s limits.
-Taking a pony to private places (as opposed to an event on another pony sim).
-Being cruel or abusive in an unwanted way.
-Leaving a pony RLV-restricted alone for a length of time.

Ponies can have very different ideas about what is acceptable and what is abusive. It is important that there be open communication on these ideas between a pony and a trainer. If a pony is willing to accept a greater level of authority from trainers, then this should be placed in the notecard dispensed by your stall sign and pony scroll.

4.1.2 Trainer Trainees

Trainer Trainees are not allowed to officially train ponies and have no authority over them. However, it is acceptable for Trainer Trainees to work with ponies to gain experience and exercise ponies.

Once they are signed off on a particular discipline, they are allowed to train ponies in that discipline.

Trainees are not allowed to sign off ponies for Thoroughbred checklist items.

4.1.3 Trainer Education

In order to become a FFF Trainer, the Trainee must work through the Trainer Trainee Checklist and an SM review before being given the FFF Trainer title. Doing so demonstrates a Trainee has the ability to train in a broad range of areas, each one being signed off. The Trainer Trainee has six months from the time receiving the Trainee tag to fulfil the requirements of the Checklist and be promoted to Trainer.
The purpose of the Trainer Checklist is to give the Management Team a chance to gauge your training acumen, demeanour, and pony handling. At the same time, it allows us to be sure you fit into the culture of the farm.
Upon being promoted, a newly qualified Trainer may train in any discipline. However, should only train in disciplines in which they are competent. The Trainer Checklist is only the beginning of the Trainer training and is a guide for the Management Team to ensure that you are on the right path.
Newly qualified Trainers should make a referral to other Trainers or Senior Trainers when they have insufficient knowledge in a discipline or the necessary experience is lacking, taking the opportunity to learn that discipline themselves from the Senior Trainer alongside the pony.
While not required, working through the Thoroughbred program as a pony is a great way for a trainer to learn the technical specifics of each discipline and the best way to develop a deeper understanding of pony skills.
While the Thoroughbred program is useful for learning the technical mechanics of pony activities, Trainers often wish to improve their teaching and pony-handling skills. Senior Trainers are the primary resource for this. Teaching how to train is an important part of their role on the farm. Look for opportunities to observe other trainers at work. You may find a piece of advice or role-playing technique you wish to add to your own Trainer style.
Trainers should use the above methods mentioned to continue to expand their skills and knowledge. Only when a Trainer has gained sufficient knowledge in the technical specifics of a discipline should they attempt to train ponies in that area.

4.2 Banning and Being Banned

Trainers have a responsibility to help mediate and resolve issues at the farm, whether they are FFF Trainers, FFF Senior Trainers or members of the FFF Management team. There are times when diplomacy breaks down, and direct action is required.

In this instance, all Trainers, Senior Trainers, Stable Mistresses and Stable Masters have the ability to Eject and Ban members from the farm. Principally, ponies at the farm are our foremost concern. Removing individuals from the farm is always seen as a preferable choice, to protect a pony.

4.2.1 Banning Protocol

Trainers: it is important to note that Banning people from the farm is without a doubt the last option. Attempts to amicably resolve the situation should always be made first; only when the situation has broken down to the point where there is no choice should a Ban be considered.

When Banning an individual, you, as a trainer, must inform the individual of the reason why he is being banned; this is probably best done in IM. The individual must also be informed that a notecard describing the incident will be sent to the Management Team. Finally, the individual must be informed that they have the right of appeal with a member of the Management Team.

The notecard should contain as much information as possible regarding the situation, so that should an appeal be lodged, the management team can make an informed decision. Try to include dates, times, names of individuals involved, the nature of the incident, and why banning was the only option.

Outline the nature of the ban in a group notice to the FFF TRAINER group, including a notecard with a detailed description of the incident.

The details must also be sent to Stable Mistress Button Wright.

4.2.2 Being Banned and Appeals

If you feel you have been banned from the sim in error, or are genuinely repentant about your behavior, we do accept appeals. Please contact a member of the Management team and make a polite request to be re-admitted to the sim.

Understand that appeals may take time, as all SMs will need to review the matter.

4.3 FFF Programs

FFF provides some optional special programs for its members. Entering a special program, just like working with a particular trainer, can carry special rules for those that have joined it. Be sure you are aware of expectations before joining.

Members with ideas for new special programs should approach a member of the management team with a written proposal.

The following list is an overview of some of these programs:

4.3.1 FFF Classes

The FFF Classroom program provides a number of interactive classroom sessions on basic ponyplay, role-playing, and training. All FFF members are encouraged to take advantage of these classes. We are always looking to add new classes to our curriculum, so please approach a member of the management team with a written proposal if you have something you wish to teach.

4.3.2 FFF Thoroughbred Program

The Thoroughbred Program is for FFF Ponies looking to add some structure to their training. The TB program provides a goal-based training program, measured by a checklist of expectations for the pony to meet in a variety of disciplines. The checklist of disciplines provides an excellent reference and review point of the pony’s progress to Owners, Trainers, and the pony in question. You can download a copy of our current TB Checklist HERE (or ask any Trainer in-world for one).

The pony must be signed off on each item by an FFF trainer. Once signed off on all items, and having gathered three recommendations from trainers, they can be tested by a member of the Management team in a final examination.. Upon passing the exam, ponies are awarded a “FFF Thoroughbred” tag.

Passing the TB final exam and becoming a member of the FFF Thoroughbred herd is a monumental achievement. Demonstrating exceptional skill and determination, FFF
Thoroughbreds can proudly stand tall in their hooves, the Best of the Best.

4.3.3 FFF Events

FFF has a long and rich history of holding ponyplay events.
Events allow a pony to compete against other ponies from across SL to test their skills and win ribbons. They are open to all well-behaved ponies regardless of stable affiliation. A list of rules is prepared for every event, so be sure to read it carefully. Breaking event rules is taken seriously and can lead to banishment from FFF.
There are notice boards in the barn that detail upcoming events. This information is gleaned from the site http://slponyplay.com; it is worth registering on this site and visiting it for updates on coming events.

4.3.4 Strict Pony Training

There is no formal Strict Pony Program at FFF, however, some trainers do take on the role of Strict Trainer. In becoming a Strict Trainer, they are essentially starting their own personal Strict Pony Program. This falls under the personal trainer rules mentioned in 3.1 Trainer Authority.
A Strict RLV-based pony training is fully permitted and encouraged at FFF. However, participants must have a defined owner or a consistent training partner to ensure they are not left unattended.
Those engaging in strict one-on-one training should not expect general group sessions to be tailored or adapted to their individual needs. Group activities are designed for broader participation and will not accommodate specialised routines or needs.
Should you be engaged in a strict pony program with a dedicated trainer/owner and need to attend a specific class or training session, you must discuss your requirements with your trainer/owner prior to attending the event or class.
Should your restrictions prevent you from engaging fully in an event or class, it will not be counted for a sign off on the Thoroughbred Training Programme.
Other member of FFF need to be respectful of the process and unlocking a Strict Pony should only be undertaken if the Pony makes a serious request for it to be done outside of the role play they are engaged in. (i.e. using the defined Safe Words)

4.4 Group Chat Etiquette

Members should feel welcome to use group chat. It can be useful when looking for available trainers, seeing if anyone is up for a game of pony polo, pony-related announcements, or any general questions you might have. A little casual chatter is fine, but remember that everyone in the group can hear you, so consider moving to private IM if you are really just talking with one person. Spam is not appreciated either, although mentions of new pony products or sales on them may be okay. Use careful judgment there.

Group chat is not for making complaints, especially about other members. That can easily lead to an argument between you and the other party in front of the whole group, and it is rare that either side comes out looking good. If you have a serious concern, take it to an SM who is neutral in the matter. The Management Team takes complaints very seriously and seeks to handle them with the least possible drama.

4.5 Capture play

Capture play is allowed on the farm, providing it is consensual. Engaging in non-consensual capture play will be taken seriously. It you are unsure if a scene you are seeing is appropriate or not, please use IM to investigate the situation. This allows you to make sure all is well without potentially disrupting an ongoing scene. If you are non-consensually captured, please contact a member of the staff or use group chat. If worse comes to worst, turn off RLV and relog. See Section 4.3.4 above for the suggestion re: Safeword.

4.6 Role Play

FFF Prides itself on its role play and includes a number of role plays in the Thoroughbred training program. These are the preferred role plays, however, we appreciate that some players may feel uncomfortable with certain role play scenes. Under these circumstances, role plays can be switched out for alternatives that you suggest. Please discuss alternatives with a Stable Mistress or Master.
All role plays relating to FFF activity should be conducted on FFF land. There are many pony role play related role play areas that can be employed for this purpose. Specific areas include, but are not limited to:
• The FFF Clinic
• The Blacksmiths Shop
• The dressing stand
• The pony wash
• The Auto Pony Wash
If there is a specific role play scene, to be used as an FFF Thoroughbred sign off, that can not be carried out on FFF land, this is allowed, however particular attention should be paid to boundaries. A role play scope, plan and limits of the role play should be established between all parties prior to the role play scene commencing.
FFF use three safe-words. If you feel uncomfortable during a role play use them. You will not be penalised for slowing or stopping a role play;
• RED
◦ Indicates that the role play has exceeded your boundaries.
◦ This means stop play immediately and has no consequences other than to respect your boundaries
• AMBER
◦ Indicates that the role play is skirting close to your boundaries and will alert the dominant to give pause and find out the source of your discomfort.
• GREEN
◦ Is rarely invoked but as a submissive, you might improve the role play by letting the dominant know this is good and you would like more of this.
Invoking a safe-word will have no detrimental effect on your sign off and in the event that a safe-word is invoked and the other party refuses your sign off an SM can arbitrate.
If you invoke your safe word and the role play is not immediately stopped;
• Teleport away
• Report the incident to a Stable Mistress/Master

5. FFF Management Team

The FFF Management team consists of FFF Stable Mistresses and FFF Stable Masters, or “SMs” as they are known.

See the ONLINE/OFFLINE signs for current SMs in the FFF Barn. The FFF Management team can be contacted anytime by clicking on those signs. Login to SL and CLICK HERE to Teleport directly there.

The Management Team has the greatest responsibility at FFF. Collectively, the managers can add, amend or remove rules at FFF. SMs are fully qualified as Senior Trainers. Note that Team members often have other duties that keep them busy so please keep in mind that they may be unavailable to train.

5.1 Management Meetings

FFF Management Team meetings are held every month, usually during the first week. The meeting is hosted and run by a Stable Mistress or Master.

Before each meeting, the host must put together an agenda for the meeting. Some items will be carried over from the previous month. Beyond that, other SMs can send items to the host to be put on the agenda. Agenda items can include suggested rule changes, ongoing projects by SMs, nominations for promotion to ST or SM, the addition of new farm programs, appeals by banned avatars to be allowed back on the farm, and improvements made to the farm. Sometimes an agenda item will simply raise an ongoing problem to brainstorm a solution.

At the meeting, the host calls each agenda item in turn, allows discussion, and calls a vote if the agenda item calls for it. It is the host’s job to move the meeting along to the next item when the matter is either settled or complex enough to need more time.

Voting is decided by a simple majority. If more than half the SMs support the proposal, it passes.

A vote can be delayed by one meeting if an SM needs time to consider a proposal that was just raised. This avoids snap decision-making.

If an SM misses a vote, they have two weeks to cast a vote with whoever led the previous meeting. Alternatively, they may delay the vote to the next meeting, so they can address it at the meeting.

5.2 Promotions and Appointments

The FFF Management team is responsible for appointing and promoting trainers at FFF. An SM may act alone in promoting someone to either Trainer Trainee or FFF Trainer.

5.2.1 Appointments

All new FFF trainers begin as Trainer Trainees, even experienced hires. This gives the Management Team time to ensure that the prospective trainer, regardless of experience, is a good fit for the ethos of the farm.
A newly appointed trainee will be granted the FFF Trainee tag and provided with the FFF New Trainer Pack. More information about trainer equipment can be found in Section 3.3 Trainer Equipment Recommendation.
The SM appointing the new trainee should spend some time with them before inviting them to join FFF and make an assessment of whether the trainer’s outlook matches the ethos of the farm. Once the new Trainee is appointed, the SM should then spend some time with them to acquaint them with the farm and perhaps even give them their first lesson.

The SM appointing the new trainee should also ensure the trainee is added to the appropriate groups.
– Tortured Dreams Ponygirl. With the Groom tag
– FFF trainers. With the Trainer Trainee tag

Finally, a Group notice to the Trainers Group informs everyone of the new Trainee and requests their support and help.

5.2.2 Promotions

5.2.2.1 Trainer Trainees to Full Trainers
Information regarding how Trainer Trainees are promoted is detailed in Section 2.3 Joining As a Trainer Trainee.

Once promoted a Trainer receives the Trainer tags in both the Tortured Dreams Ponygirl group and the Trainers Group. An announcement is made to the Trainers group and the Tortured Dreams Ponygirl group, welcoming the new full trainer.

Since only an SM may promote a Trainee to Trainer, a notice to the Management Group is considered good practice.

It is important to remember that SMs can promote trainers as they see fit, but they take responsibility for any promotions made. Should there be feedback that requires remedial action, the promoting SM is expected to manage these actions. New Trainers should also remember that their actions reflect on the SM that promoted them.

5.2.2.2 Full Trainers to Senior Trainers

Promotion to Senior Trainer requires a majority vote by the SMs. An SM will propose a promotion to the group at the first available Management Meeting; during this meeting, SMs will vote on the proposal.

Due to the important nature of Senior Trainers, it is customary for SMs to require a month of observation prior to making a decision. During this time, SMs may chat with, work with, or observe the candidate. It is not customary to inform the candidate of the proposal at this time.

At the next meeting, a vote will be taken. The candidate will either be approved, denied, or denied with actions.

During all votes, a majority vote is required to promote the candidate to Senior trainer.

Denied with actions means the proposing SM takes actions to work with the candidate to address concerns raised during the observation period. A minimum period of one month must have elapsed before the candidate can be nominated for promotion again.

Once approved, Senior Trainers are given the ST tags in both the Tortured Dreams Ponygirl group and the Trainers Group. An announcement to the Trainers group and Farm group is made to herald the arrival of a new Senior Trainer.

5.2.2.3 Senior Trainers to Stable Mistress/Master

The number of Stable Mistresses and Masters is kept deliberately small. Too many people in the SM position would create confusion in the running of the farm. The position is also a big responsibility for any FFF member to take on.

A promotion to SM requires a unanimous vote by the SMs. In exactly the same way that Senior Trainers are promoted, an SM will nominate a Senior Trainer for Promotion. A period of consideration is always required, to allow the SMs to meet and discuss how the candidate will benefit the farm.

Once promoted an SM is given a month’s probation. Performance is reviewed at the next Management Meeting.

The SM must also be given all roles, with the exception of SIM owner, in the following groups:
– Tortured Dreams Ponygirl Members
– FFF Trainers
– FFF Stable Management

6. History of Frilly Filly Farm

(The HISTORY is not included in this Web version of the Handbook. Rather,click here to go to the HISTORY page.)